I think one of the contributory facts- it's not the only one- is the insidious nature of the internet itself. Berlin: How do we go from fantasy to reality? Lots of people have private fantasies that give them some sort of pleasure and maybe even trouble them, but they don't act on them. Hansen: What makes a man go from visiting inappropriate Web sites and fantasizing on the Internet, maybe even in conversation, to actually showing up to meet a 12 or 13-year-old child?ĭr. What can we do to help make sure they don't give into these temptations? The point I'm making is that we're learning that as much a public health problem as it is a criminal justice matter and that we need to address it from both perspectives. Obviously we don't want people to act on those attractions.īut we can't simply dismiss it as though we have no need to understand how many people have these kinds of desires. We don't tend to talk about it publicly.Īnd yet, if you go to the Internet, there are attractions of sorts that we wouldn't begin to imagine: people who are interested in looking at sites involving animals having sex with human beings, people who are interested in looking at sadomasochistic involvements, people who are interested in looking at very young children engaged in sexual activity, even infants. Berlin: Well, one of the things that we're learning about the Internet or through the Internet is the incredible diversity of the sexual makeup of human beings. Hansen: Does it surprise you that so many men would show up to meet a child?ĭr. But the fact that they're trying to pursue the kinds of desires they experience is not necessarily in and of itself surprising. They are trying to persuade these youngsters because they're attracted to them sexually to become involved in an intimate way. There is clearly something different about these individuals. Berlin: Well, clearly, these are by definition men who have an interest in becoming involved sexually with children of that age. Hansen: When you read the computer chat logs of the conversations between the men and the decoy, you see a grooming process. But there may be tremendous differences between them, and it's important to understand the differences as it is to understand the similarities. Clearly, every one of these men is doing something that's terribly wrong. I think we're so quick now to use the term "predator." We have to talk in terms of, as far as I'm concerned, that have everyday meaning tied to them. Is it fair to call each one of these men a predator?ĭr. It's fun, we promise.Below, is a transcript of more of their interview.Ĭhris Hansen, Dateline correspondent: We had recently had 50 men come into a house, hoping to meet a 12 to 13-year-old child. So, if you're looking to unearth a few skeletons, we've got the perfect list of questions for you. Warning: if you're playing this as a drinking game, remember that wine can be like truth serum, but to always drink responsibly! If you actually asked your friends out of the blue if they've ever lied to someone in the group, you might not get the same honesty.
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